A Day for Hurting Hearts


International Bereaved Mother’s Day, May 5th

Do you know a bereaved mother? Hug her. Has your sister lost a pregnancy? Give her a call. Did your grandmother outlive any of her children? Send her a prayer. In other words, love on a mother who has lost a child. They need you.

Losing a child, no matter how and at any age, is the worst way to grieve. The pain you feel is not only emotional, but it’s also physical. Your body hurts, your heart hurts, your hair even hurts. Miscarriage, SIDS, SUIDS, car accidents, cancer, diseases, natural catastrophes, or in my case… suicide. There are several more ways we mothers have lost our beautiful children. Each way is equally devastating. Each of us has a story, only some of us can tell it. Zane is my reason for “celebrating” National Bereaved Mother’s Day. I love him so much that I write this post to remind each and every one of you to celebrate all other mothers who are in their own dungeons of grief.

Every May, us mothers who are in a constant fury, are entitled to a day of honor. May 5th belongs to us. We are no longer whole. We have an emptiness, so give us a little love to fill that void, even if only for a little while.

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West Texas has always been my home, and Lubbock has been my work-home for 23 years as a hairstylist. My husband Joe and I have 4 children, Daniel (24), Zane (Forever 16), KaiDyn (13) and Riot (11). Daniel is married to Adrianna and together they have our wild and crazy 5 year old grandson Zeagan. KaiDyn and Riot, whom are siblings, are adopted and have been with us since January of 2018! Joe and I are actively involved in a Suicide Prevention and Awareness Program called #flyhighzane. In 2020 Joe left the oilfield to become self-employed owning a handyman business, Everybody Needs a Joe and Sons. I am here as a mom, a grandmother, a friend, and just someone who has been there. I'm here to talk. Favorite Restaurant: Cancun Favorite Lubbock Landmark: Hell's Gate behind Dunbar Lake (this spot was Zane's favorite) Favorite Tradition: Anything at the National Ranching Heritage Center