Lessons From a Strawberry Pie


Not too long ago, shortly before his 12th birthday, my middle child asked to make a strawberry pie. Well, technically, he sent me a text from across the room, but I digress. The conversation went something like this:

Child: Can I make a strawberry pie?

Me: Of course! Find a recipe and make an ingredient list. I might need to get a few things.

Child: No recipe. I know what I’m doing.

Me: Okay, if you’re sure! 

A few minutes later, however, I overheard, “well, this isn’t turning out as I thought.” I checked on him, and he did indeed have a sticky, goopy mess. I told him no big deal, we would clean it up, and he could try the next day again. Maybe with a recipe next time.

He wasn’t happy, though. I let him have some time alone, but then I went to check on him. He was sad and disappointed. He was upset the pie didn’t work out and upset with himself. That’s a life lesson right there. But he’s a lot like his mama. He wears his heart on his sleeve, is emotionally sensitive, and is hard on himself. 

We had a good chat. I took the time to remind him that I rarely cook without looking at a recipe for guidance. When I was little and told my grandmother I wanted to learn to bake bread, we talked about the first thing she did was grab a cookbook. Using a recipe was not a bad thing! And also that we need to give ourselves some slack, learning something new can be hard.

Later, it dawned on me that parenting is a lot like cooking without a recipe. Sometimes things work out, and sometimes you wind up with a sticky, goopy mess! Blessedly, if you do have a mess, you usually get the opportunity to scrap it all and start over. Even if you do get one phase or one child “figured out,” the next one can throw you for a loop. It’s sort of like how I can whip up a batch of pancakes without a recipe, but I wouldn’t dare make a cake without one!

In case you’re wondering, he made a strawberry pie the next day using this recipe. He made it all by himself, crust and all, and it was fantastic!

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A lifelong resident of Lubbock, Katy loves living in the Hub City, despite the dust storms and heat waves! Katy loves cheering on the Red Raiders, holding both her bachelor's and master's degrees in business from Texas Tech. She also loves the art of dance, having started on the stage at the age of three and has many years of dance teaching experience as well. Growing up an only child did not completely prepare her for raising three energetic boys but she loves them to infinity and beyond! At home, Katy can often be found curled up with the cat and a good book, but more than likely she’ll be creating in the kitchen. Katy appreciates a good cup of coffee any time of day. She also has a slight obsession with true crime podcasts and documentaries. One of her recent adventures has been starting Kidpreneur Lubbock, giving local youth the opportunity to start and run their own business at a one-day marketplace. She also homeschools her children and is still a number-cruncher by trade while working from home. Katy is excited and proud to be part of the Lubbock Moms Community! Favorite Lubbock Restaurant: Thai Thai Favorite Landmark: Texas Tech Seal and Fountain Favorite Lubbock Tradition: Carol of Lights at Texas Tech University